Visiting Sick and Aging Parishioners: A Ministry of Presence
Being involved with people who are suffering or struggling in their later years calls us to a Ministry of Presence - actively listening with our heart to understand what the person is feeling and what is needed, versus offering an immediate solution. By doing so, we foster connectedness, community, security and self esteem. How can we accomplish this?
Our presence – be prepared before the visit; set the mood and agenda, leave your own “baggage” at home, bring the Holy Spirit along.
Center your attention on the person you are visiting. Remember that you are a guest.
Listen and hear their story. Take the time to help them discern their feelings and perceptions. Avoid talking about your own problems and illnesses.
Be a catalyst to foster hope and encouragement, reminding them they are made in Christ’s image and that there is a purpose for this season in life. Allow them to minister to you.
Help them own and affirm their feelings and be "OK" with them. Walk with them unconditionally withholding judgment. Do not let them feel they are alone with their circumstances. Validate their feelings and have an understanding heart. Be clear that you are there for them by being yourself and being genuine.
Maintain confidentiality.
Consider a hug or a warm handshake if this seems appropriate - this can be a way of showing genuine care.
Help them feel a part of the parish community. Having more than one person visiting brings a sense of “community” and connectedness. Talk about what occurred in the parish during the past week. Bring them a bulletin and offer to include them in prayer.
