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Physician heal thyself:
Homophobia, like a thick wall, has separated
many of us from our authentic Gay Self. Homophobia has driven many gay
and lesbian youth to commit suicide. Homophobia has kept many of us in
the closet and prevented us from living an authentic life. It is time
to expose the demon of homophobia and make a commitment to utilize our
skills as health care providers to challenge homophobia within ourselves
and in our profession. We, as a group of gay Iranian health care providers,
have a unique position to educate the Iranian community about the devastating
impact of homophobia on the lives of gay and lesbian people.
One of our tasks as health care providers is to diagnose our patients
and based on that diagnosis provide treatment. We have applied the same
principle here and identified homophobia as a primary causes of gay and
lesbian people's suffering; Not only external homophobia, but also internalized
homophobia as well. We do not have to go too far to prove this. By looking
at our own painful process of growing up gay in heterosexual families,
we can see how we were not seen as who we truly are. Instead, we were
raised to deny our true nature. As young boys or girls we felt different
and did not know why we felt different. Most of us did not have anyone
to help us to make sense of the confusion we were feeling. We were very
alone with our "differentness", and sometimes horrified by it.
Every kid's nightmare is to be called faggot (kooni). Many of us grow
up living with that label almost every day. Daily abuses are experienced
at home or in school when suspected of being gay. The trauma of growing
up gay in a homophobic culture shattered our self-esteem. Some of us tried
to compensate for our feelings of toxic shame and inner inferiority by
getting good grades and becoming highly educated, and others took the
"depressed road" by becoming junkies or long-term alcoholics.
Internalized homophobia is the toxic shame, some of us feel for having
come out to our friends and families. We think we have brought shame onto
our Iranian families for coming out. We all have heard or know of gay
Iranians who committed suicide over extreme rejections they experienced
after coming out to their friends and families. Many gay Iranians who
are dominated by the demon of internalized homophobia get married and
pretend they are something they are not and deny themselves the chance
of living an authentic life; A life that is based on silencing our true
voice and murdering our genuine homoerotic feelings.
Many gay physicians have been using their surgical knife to cut themselves
off from their gay feelings, and letting the cancer of inner homophobia
grow. Because many of us were made to believe that we are less for being
gay and have no right to express who we are nor deserve to have love,
we act out the rage we have for being treated less than. This rage, due
to years of mistreatment and abuse, is expressed unconsciously and can
take the form of drug abuse, bareback sex, or suicide attempts.
We are committed to utilizing our health care provider skills to challenge
homophobia on every level. There is a need for us to come together and
to work cooperatively to illuminate homophobia in order to liberate ourselves
and our community from its toxic effects. By forming Iranian Gay and Lesbian
Healthcare Providers and creating this website, we have taken an important
step toward promoting health and unity in our community and challenging
homophobia.
Please send your comments to:
info@iraniangaydoctors.com
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