In our increasingly imperfect world, it's often difficult to know how to behave. Miss Manners, however, always has the perfect advice. Now it's your turn to contribute words of wisdom. Read our etiquette dilemma and add your two cents to the mix. Then check back March 12 to see how your advice compares with Miss Manners' solution.
See the answer to previous dilemma:
Letting sick guest clean up mess
The current dilemma: Confront friend about rumor?
My friend Linda and I have known each other for 25 years. Linda is five years into her second marriage. I have heard a rumor about Linda's husband that has appalled me: At a bar, with Linda present, he grabbed and ripped open the blouse of a woman seated at their table. I heard this from a mutual friend who was present. I've waited for Linda to mention it, but nothing has been said. If it did happen I'm sure that she's embarrassed. I don't want to make her uncomfortable. But I need to know if this really happened. I want to be able, should I hear this gossip again, to stick up for her. Maybe it didn't happen the way the gossiper said it did. And since we have been such longtime friends, I need to be able to look her husband in the eye without wanting to punch him.
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