In our increasingly imperfect world, it's often difficult to know how to behave. Miss Manners, however, always has the perfect advice. Now it's your turn to contribute words of wisdom. Read our etiquette dilemma and add your two cents to the mix. Then check back April 23 to see how your advice compares with Miss Manners' solution.
My mother has Alzheimer’s disease. I still take her out to movies, dinner, family outings and social events. I want her to still participate as much as she is able. However, occasionally, strangers ask Mom to decide certain things, such as if she wants a whole or half sandwich or alcoholic drink. She can't really make appropriate choices any longer and I must order for her. Some wait staff have ignored my instructions, saying I shouldn't be mean or tell my mother what to do. She has several medical problems in addition to the Alzheimer’s, such as diabetes and high blood pressure, and I need to limit her foods and other things to that which is healthy for her.
How do I let these people in on the idea that Mom isn't capable without embarrassing her by stating so in front of her?
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