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Gay Asian American Male: Inter-Racial Dating
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From the Perspective of a GWM, Abel Kitchen (E-Mail Website)
Abel Kitchen is currently living and working in Taiwan as a columnist for That East-West Thing in His Magazine.
His Magazine is a popular English language Taiwanese gay magazine. Taiwan's Publication Rating Ministry recognized His Magazine as a rated 'R' artistic publication allowing His Magazine to be sold in mainstream bookstores, a first for a publication featuring full-frontal male nudity and a substantial victory for gay people in Taiwan.
• Taiwaneasy, a GWM in Taiwan
By Abel Kitchen
Sometimes for fun I submit personal ads describing myself as (among other
things): married with children, very old, very fat, very unattractive! Whatever I say, I get responses. My most self-deprecating ad got
at least twenty-five replies. My most self-aggrandizing ad, wherein I described
myself as the lost twin of Brad Pitt, got hundreds of replies–with photos and
phone numbers. More...
• DNA
By Abel Kitchen
A while back, I was listening to the coming-out story of a Taiwanese boy I know.
It’s simply the best story of its kind I’ve heard, and I want to share it with
you... He says, "I’m gay, but I forgive you." More...
• Asian Boy Power: More Protein and the New Pill
Potential
By Abel Kitchen
Seldom has a class of people been as starved for self-respect and
empowerment as gay Asian men. They
accept that they are gay the way one might accept being afflicted with some
disfiguring disease or similarly stigmatized. I’ll bet many of them wished that
someone would invent a pill to magically cure 3,000 years of oppressive social
doctrine. More...
• Never Say I Love You
By Abel Kitchen
My experience has brought me to the conclusion that cross-cultural gay
relationships between Western men (GWM) and Taiwanese men (GAM) simply don't work. I know that's a very provocative thing to say. We like to believe that love
conquers all, but we all know that it simply isn't true. More...
• Some Rice in My Bowl
By Abel Kitchen
Relationships, romantic and otherwise, develop between people (gay and
otherwise) for complex and varied reasons that cannot be defined in a few words.
But it's hard not to be distracted by the rice queen stereotype when observing
gay 'east-west' relationships, because the ones that fit this stereotype are,
naturally, the most obvious and colorful. More...
• Taiwan is This, Taiwan is That
By Abel Kitchen
The most refreshing aspect of his
character that is Taiwanese is his seeming inability to perceive himself and me
as having anything to do with the on-again, off-again nature of so many Western
gay relationships. We are simply married. To him that is final. Come what may,
breaking-up is simply not on his list of optional resolutions to any crisis in
our union. More...
• A Correspondence with Mr. Kitchen
Taiwanese people believe in family and marriage, whether
gay or straight. The majority of gay Taiwanese men, while believing in family,
believe themselves to be disqualified from it... My boyfriend combines his Taiwanese values with the Western
belief that two gay men can indeed share a
marriage and life together. That is why breaking up is simply not on his list of
optional resolutions to any crisis in our union.
More...
• Mummy Factor
By Abel Kitchen
Heterosexual men live in unhappy marriages with women they don't love (and who
don't love them). They wish for something more for their sons–concluding that a
life of homosexuality, while not the best choice, is at least honest and better
than a life in a miserable marriage. More...
• My Boyfriend's Back
By Abel Kitchen
The word most often used by young Taiwanese gay men to describe their
ideal lover is 'sincere'. I've been hearing this for several years now,
and I still don't quite understand what the word means to them. More...
• Inter-Racial Relationship/Age
Part I: As I grow with age, I have
come to appreciate more and more of my heritage and men who share that
background. While I'm open to meeting men of different cultures and races, I
can't help but wonder if that is true for the non-Asian out there. More...
Part II: I have never been attracted to men of my age, and as a result I know that the men I date will be younger than myself. I found then, and continue to find, that younger Asian men tend to possess more of the aforementioned traits I need in a relationship, than their white counterparts. More...
