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Charu Sabnavis
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When
entrusted with a difficult assignment or a tough deadline at the workplace, an
optimist focuses his energies on identifying a solution and charting out a
roadmap. He nurtures a mental attitude that admits positive thoughts, words and
images, leading to success and happiness.
Our attitudes are shaped
through constant conditioning as a result of interactions with family, friends
and environment. They are so ingrained in us that it is an uphill task to alter
them. Positive thinking is a hallmark of an optimist professional, who expects
to see brightness and sunshine everywhere. The language of an optimist is 'I
will', 'I can', 'It's possible'. A pessimist would lose precious time just
thinking about the problem. An optimist focuses on the solution, the pessimist
on the problem. An optimist would introspect and figure out the disconnect
between performance and expectations and try and bridge the gap, never losing
sight of the goals.
When
caught in the quagmire of negativity, one's misperceptions overcome one's
logical thinking. These irrational themes are manifested in many ways:
Filtering:
We magnify the negative
aspects of a situation and filter the positive ones. For instance, you have been
promoted and you've got a good increment. However, the percentage of the
increment is a notch below your expectation. You focus on the latter instead of
celebrating the former.
Personalising:
You hold yourself responsible
for anything that goes wrong. If the team overshoots the project deadline by a
day, you take complete responsibility and curse yourself.
Catastrophising:
You live in the realm of
Murphy's Law, expecting anything that could possibly go wrong, will go wrong!
E.g. if you are organising a training programme, you will anticipate that the
trainer will not turn up, the equipment will fail and the participants will
either not show up.
Polarising:
You look at things in white or
black. So the boss is either excellent or nasty, the colleagues are supportive
or uncooperative, team members are performing well or not at all.
Making Positive Thinking a
Habit:
Evaluate
Your Thinking:
Watch your
thinking during the course of the day. Check yourself the moment you find
yourself edging towards negative thoughts. E.g. Instead of lamenting over lack
of resources, think of creative solutions. Similarly, don't get overawed by
tasks that seem too complicated. They'll seem less daunting if you break them up
into smaller units and then address them. If you think that you do not have the
expertise in a particular area, look around for experts who can help you. Try
and induce more of self acceptance and less of self criticism. This will enable
you to relook at 'problems' at the work place as 'learning opportunities' and
handle stress in a realistic and constructive manner.
Exercise
Positive Affirmations
Susan
Jeffers, noted self help author, avers that positive affirmation is a proven
tool for steering clear of negativity and fear. She explains, "Positive
affirmation is a strong positive statement telling us that all is well. With
constant repetition of this uplifting and soothing statement, the voice of doom
and gloom is replaced with thoughts of peace, power and love." Pin up positive
affirmations like "It is all happening perfectly" or "I am powerful and I can do
it" at your office desk or in your car, and look at it on your way to work. It
has been demonstrated that just repeating, writing or thinking positive
statements lend us strength, whether or not we believe them. And if we say
affirmations often enough, we ultimately start believing in them! Positive
affirmations can certainly arm us with resilience for facing adversity.
Associate
With Positive People
Both
positive and negative thoughts are contagious. At the workplace one often
encounters unhappy souls, who find something wrong with almost everything around
them. They point fingers when things go wrong, they grumble, moan and find
fault. It helps to steer clear of these people as they rub off their attitude
and state of mind on us. When we meet people, we are affected by their aura and
thoughts consciously or subconsciously. Therefore, it helps to be in the midst
of people who are optimistic, upbeat and happy.
Positive thinking can empower us in
a way that would boost our self esteem, expand our comfort zone and envelope us
with well being and health, thus paving way for personal and professional
growth. It has been aptly said that a positive thinker sees the invisible, feels
the intangible and achieves the impossible!
(The author is Senior Manager,
Training, at an Investment Bank. The views expressed are personal)
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