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Re: So Many Themes, So Little Humor (LONG POST)-short reply
At 12:00 AM 3/27/97 -0800, DaveBui wrote:
>When my friend or family member asks me why I am gay, I would respond,
>"If I had a choice between being gay and straight, then do you think I
>would choose to be gay?"
I wonder who would?
What I find most infuriating is that I could marry an Asian woman in the
USA on a student visa and she would not have to return to her country; the
INS could not separate us. As one who was parted from the male love of his
life by these exact circumstances, I hold this difference very dear.
>Me, I want to be part of something positive and from my
>experience, I don't think that the gay lifestyle offers that. There is
>no sense of community, continuity, or longevity (I'm sure some of you
>will quote this and try to prove me wrong but this is my perception).
>For this very reason, I want to see more positive gay role models. To
>me, words are cheap; it's what I experience or witness that counts. I'll
>be the first to admit that I am DESPERATE --- desperate to make the gay
>community a more positive one for each and every one of us. Where do we
>start?
>
>DaveBui
I say we start with our individual selves, and we start in the workplace.
We set fine examples as decent, hard-working, personable and likeable
people with lovers we don't cheat on or trade around. We set the finest
examples we can, and we do so with tact and timing, not shock and camp.
And we have a lot of negative ones to offset. We counter the negative
images created in the public mind with wholesome ones, and let people know
that we too love our partners, that we are capable of fidelity, and that we
need respect too.
Chris
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