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RE: Frank Talk on Gay Stereotypes


> they are sick of each other sexually? That brings me to the question: 
> whether the motive for many of the gay men out there to come to each other 
> mentally is the physical attration , pleasure. Anyway , as obvious as it 
> is, the gay communities do not have good role model, speaking generally. In 

There's nothing more annoying to me than other people, let alone gay
people, linking homosexuality with so-called "moral" standards with
regards to the dating scene.  Gay men are pigs (and if not pigs, at least
dogs) because they're men, NOT because they're gay.  So to say that the
gay communities need "good" role models is somewhat of a misnomer to me.
While I have no interest in guys who parade around with multiple partners,
I also see no point in branding them immoral heathens.  If anything, I
hope they're trying to be safe in their unsafe behavior.  Let's face it
folks, it's not as if straight men are paragons of virtue, either.  It
takes two to tangle, and three for a menage a trois.  I have no sympathy
for anyone who knowingly enters a relationship with someone that's going
to disrespect" him/her by oggling other people.  Kind of a digression from
what I've been talking about, but it had to be said.  I don't know if it's
a matter of immorality as it is one of stupidity.  

> the previous article someone also mentioned about not going to the club to 
> avoid such incident described. I personally do not believe that would be 
> the solution, for the club is where it's all started. We do have 
> organization and all that support groups, but how many people actually go 
> to the meetings, especially for those who are not out yet? How do you get 
> to meet people who are like you ? I believe the clubs are really our 
> playground and a big part in the continuity of our existence.
> 

Pardon my vernacular, but bull-shit.  :) Clubs are social settings, and
entailed in such places are people who want to "get social."  Some more
than others, to the point where the quest for threesomes should not be a
shock, let alone a surprise.  While I'm not ruling out that anyone cannot
find a meaningful relationship in clubs, I wouldn't call it my first
choice to meet "people like me," either.  Most people who go to clubs are
generally looking for a good time, not a homily.

Anyway...I'll shut up for now...

-khoa (21, outspoken and obnoxious infrequent clubber...and proud of it).   


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